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Editor: Jan Sadler, MBE No.245 August 2015

Welcome to the PainSupport newsletter. Our newsletter and website are here to show you how to live the best you can despite your chronic pain. Our Forum is always open for your questions and comments and our Shop is always open for books and relaxation CDs and Downloads.

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The Things People say!
by Jan Sadler
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How often have you been upset or irritated - or even amused - by comments made to you about your pain?

I've been on the receiving end of some classics over the years which may just ring a bell with you!

  • From a stranger: 'You've got sciatica? Drink more water, it will cure it!
  • From a friend: 'But you look so good. No-one would believe you've got all that pain.'
  • From a therapist: 'Your pain is because of something bad you did in a past life!'
  • From an acquaintance: 'I saw you out in the park yesterday, you must be better!'
  • From a Consultant: 'This pain has ruined your life!'
  • From an acquaintance: 'I've got terrible sciatica too, but I ignore it and we're off for a walking holiday next week.'
  • From a friend: 'You're so brave. Poor you, I feel so sorry for you.'

I used to get upset by remarks like these, but now realise that people don't intend to be hurtful or unkind.

So next time you receive unwanted comments, brush them off. Remember, people don't intend to be mean but they do blurt out comments without thinking about how the remarks will be received.

All we really want is for people to believe us and to try to understand our situation.

  • Your pain is REAL.
  • Believe in yourself, even if others question your pain.
  • You are not responsible for other people's reactions.
  • When necessary, help others to understand by explaining calmly how your pain affects you.

How do YOU handle the sort of uncomfortable comments I've been talking about?
If you have any tips Email us at PainSupport or use our Contact form

See our page about the importance of good relationships: Relationships.
Find out more about handling your feelings here: Emotions
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An Invitation…
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Find new friends who truly DO understand

The PainSupport Contact Club

If you're not already a member, why not join our highly successful and popular Confidential Contact Club? There is, of course, no charge! There are lots of lovely people out there who just happen to have pain in their lives but who are determined to make the most of things despite it all.

YOU have much to offer them, and they have much to offer YOU. Ease the pain by sharing life's ups and downs with those who understand.

Here is a wonderful message recently received from S.B., a UK member of the PainSupport Contact Club,

Since I joined your Contact Club I have made two really good friends. We email regularly and have met up as well. I just wanted to say thank you, as I don't have many friends, and none that really understand my condition. And the people in the Club understand as they are also in the same position. It means a lot, because you realise through talking to others you are not alone with what you are going through, and you see their strength.

Register for the Contact Club at the bottom of the Contact Club page.

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You are also most welcome to visit our forum. It's friendly and helpful and we have many very knowledgeable members.

Do you have a question you'd like answered? Or maybe you know the answer to someone else's problem? Or come and just read the topics, they are always interesting. It always helps to share a problem.

We have thousands of supportive members so don't miss out, join in today!
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Sweet dreams...
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When you lack energy one factor may be because of having restless nights. One of the best ways to lull yourself to sleep is to 'daydream'. Use your imagination to see yourself in a beautiful, quiet place, your own personal 'sanctuary'.

When you need to relax you can take yourself, in your imagination, to your sanctuary. As you 'explore' your special place you will feel yourself beginning to relax. Then, in your mind, slowly think you way around your body. Tell each part in turn that it is peaceful, calm, soft and relaxed – and they soon will be! And in a little while you will be resting more and more comfortably and soon be ready to drift off to a revitalising and peaceful sleep.

See the PainSupport website sleep page here

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Sore or dry mouth or throat?
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The side effects of many medications is often a sore or dry mouth and throat.

Vocal-Care specialize in products that soothe and heal. The website is aimed at singers and entertainers but the products are equally effective for those of us with dry mouth or throat symptoms.

I've bought the Clarity mouth spray and the Entertainer spray. There are lots of other products to try too.

They also sell Dr Stuart's Throat Relief Tea, which is a lovely soothing herbal tea. I've used it every day for years as it's the only tea I've found that really soothes my mouth and throat. It also tastes delicious.

A question?

Do you have any practical day to day challenges with pain and how it affects your life? If you do, you are welcome to send your question to me for discussion in a future newsletter. You would remain anonymous, of course. Whatever affects your life probably affects many of us. This is a great way to support each other.

Email PainSupport here

or use our online Contact Us form here

Relaxation for pain control

All of Jan's CDs have been voted top relaxation CDs by people such as, Holland and Barrett and Woman's Weekly Magazine. Full details from our Shop Plus we have a special summer sale offer with 20% off all CDs.

A Good Night's Sleep Get A Good Night's Sleep! Our CD is rated the top sleep CD by Woman's Weekly, it really does work, sleep virtually guaranteed.
CD or book, including the CD
Pain Relief Without Drugs Our highly recommended Pain Relief Without Drugs CD is ideal for anyone with pain. The first track is a short talk by Jan, which is followed by five different truly relaxing tracks.
CD or book, including the CD
Relax and Release your Pain Choose 'Relax & Release your Pain' for lovely relaxation tracks plus self-management tips for pain relief.
Perfect Relaxation 'Perfect Relaxation' is just what its name says. Eight different tracks of perfect relaxation. Explore a tropical paradise, take a walk by the sea, relax by a stream or discover your own secret hideaway.
Pacing Workbook And, of course, our popular 'Pacing for Pain Relief Workbook' for just £3.00.

Jan's CDs always include simple techniques for breathing for pain relief. Also, of course, there are tracks for pure relaxation using visualisation and relaxation techniques. All you need to do is listen to Jan's soothing voice and your pain and tension will float away!

Go to our Shop to download or buy CDs or books.

It worked for me!
A member's recommendation
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Can't go?
PainSupport member, Rose E., says that many medications cause uncomfortable constipation. She found a good page with all you need to know about how to find relief:
The constipation can be worse than the pain

Please tell us!!
If you try any product or idea that helps you in some way please let us know. Even if it only reduces symptoms a little, it may help others too.
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Just for You - worksheets and downloads all at no charge
NB Print the above two Pain Logs to keep track of your pain and find out what affects it. Use your Logs to show your doctor how your pain affects you.

Discussion Forum
Some of the latest forum topics - join in and have your say!

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Some of our most popular general interest topics
The latest good books as recommended by our members
Laughter is the best medicine See our bank of jokes
Hobbies and Crafts Album Photos of members' craft work.
Plants and Gardens Garden chat and photos of members' gardens
Easy Meals Lots of ideas for easy meals
'Today I am...' A snapshot of each other’s lives. What's going on with you today?
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Laughter is the best medicine

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I was going to dump all my socks, but then I got cold feet.

A friend bought me a really cheap thesaurus.
I couldn’t find the words to thank him.

My new stopwatch is great.
It goes from 0-60 in a minute.

I went to see a really useless faith healer last night.
He was so bad that even a bloke in a wheelchair got up and walked out.

I was in Bermuda recently, and I went to see their national orchestra playing.
The chap with the triangle mysteriously disappeared.

We have thousands of jokes in our Laughter is the best medicine series on the Forum, here's a link to all the latest:
Visit our Joke Bank

You are welcome to add some jokes too - as long as they are nice and clean, of course!

Editor's Note

We hope you've enjoyed the PainSupport newsletter and find the information useful. Send us your comments and items for the newsletter, we love to hear from you.

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or use our online Contact Us form here
Jan Sadler, MBE

All best wishes - keep smiling - and keep moving!
Jan at PainSupport

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