Reply To: intimate relationships and chronic pain


Hi Steve, I am in the same boat as you and I really don’t know what to do, I had a spinal column stimulator fitted last year which has left me with a big scar on my stomach (not to mention the big lump of metal I can feel inside me) scars on my side and back, I feel very unsexy and when anything/one touches my stomach It makes me feel sick, I explained this to my hubbie, but he says he can’t feel it. he now tells me that he doesn’t know if he can live with me and the pain i’m in and everything that goes with it. He says he feels that nothing he does is good enough, i’ve asked him what things but he has no reply. He won’t discuss it and i don’t know what to do, he says he’s felt like this for the last 6 months, but he’s never said anything till we had a row on holiday last week, it came like a bolt from the blue for me